The Therapist

Imagine that a patient tells us that the enormous suffering caused by ongoing discussions with his wife, which on the other hand, loves and does not want to lose. It is those relationships that I call "gum relationships (because they are always about to break, but never do). We can also call relations "neither you nor without you." They are couples who seem to be linked by a rigid rod of a meter, so if one leaves, the other goes back, but if the first turns, now it is the other fleeing. It is always a "one meter." They move a lot, but nothing ever happens. These couples who love attacking them (return to them, when speaking of melodramas). Grand Canyon is often quoted as being for or against this.

Let's continue with our example. When the patient tells the therapist the last discussion, this realizes that the patient is completely oblivious to how his attitude (tone of voice, gestures, looks, etc..), which causes fear, which is go on and on arguing with his wife in an endless cycle. It shows absolutely unable to integrate his "I participant" with his "I observer." At this point, when the therapist will "pay" their "observing ego." He points out those aspects of their behavior (tone, looks, gestures, etc..), He has differentiated and are those who dismiss his wife to make this react with even more anger, perpetuating the cycle of discussions and mutual abuse . The planned integrated brief psychotherapy, as I understand it and practice, has a didactic component negligible. I always try to teach the patient and not catch fish it for him (this is a major perversion of psychotherapy). I understand that the patient must be analyzed to live and not live to be analyzed. If you do not teach him to fish, would have a lifelong patient (patient scholarship) and that would be very lucrative, but highly unethical. Well, when the patient has developed or strengthened, through psychotherapy, the "observing ego" is that the therapist has been able to "teach" and transmit their own "observing ego." That is, my patient and know "fish" or whatever it is the same, the patient and takes his own therapist on the inside, and that fact makes him strong candidate for the high treatment. According to the speaker, judge for yourselves whether or not important what the "observing ego" in therapy. Reproduced in whole or in part, provided that mention the author and source.